It was almost five years ago that I
received a forwarded email from my father in law asking me to save the murdered unborn
- or something of that nature. Now, I
had only been dating Chris for about six months at that time, and worried about
how to respond to this email without alienating myself from this man for whom I’d
already developed much love and respect.
After a moment, I sent off a reply stating simply, “I am pro-choice.” To which I received a prompt reaction. “Is this an April fool’s joke?”
“No,” I answered, “it is not. Your son and I have agreed to disagree regarding this. I hope that you can respect that, and do the same.”
I got no response to this email. Nor did he ever bring it up again. I don’t know what he thought of our brief interaction. I never will, as he passed away in 2003. But he often told me that he thought I was an intelligent woman, and that he was glad his son had married me.
Over the years, I've thought a lot about that short communication.
I know that most of Chris’ family shares his father’s political and religious views. And I know that they have at least some understanding of mine. But it is rarely brought up. And for the most part, I like it that way. I don’t have to feel too uncomfortable in my role as insurgent newbie relative. I think the feeling of ease is mostly reciprocated.
But sometimes, when I meet new people, it comes across that I am both pro-choice - and - very supportive of organ donation. I often see the veiled look of questioning behind their eyes. And I’m glad that they don’t always ask me how this can be.
Why am I relieved? Not because I am unsure of my convictions. But rather, because, we live in such a climate of fear based politics, that when questioned, I clam up, get sweaty, and my mind fills with a grey, fuzzy, panic.
But I found someone who doesn’t share my lip-tripping political stammer. Molly is absolutely fantastic at cutting straight to the heart of an issue. And yesterday she wrote a piece entitled “Which is it?” that truly resonated with me. It addressed clearly and succinctly not only the differences between the politics of The Death Penalty, Abortion, and Organ Procurement, but how someone can logically have very disparate views of each.
I completely agree with her point – which, simply paraphrased, is that it is all about individual responsibility and the rights of a person over their person. Whether you agree or not, her blog is definitely worth taking a look at. I know that I’ll be back.
For what it’s worth, I found Molly
She is also a great read, and highly recommended.